BLNC Facets: Remus
- blncmag
- Jul 9
- 2 min read
BLNC Facets : Pride in Everyday
Remus
BACOLOD
What is everyday life like as a queer person on your side of the country?
R: It means knowing how to be visible without being too seen. People are polite, sometimes even warm, but there is a limit to how much of yourself you’re allowed to show. If you fit into a role they recognize the comic relief, the creative, the friend who never talks about love then you’re tolerated. But anything deeper, anything too real, becomes uncomfortable for them.
There is pressure to keep your truth small, especially around family and faith. You learn how to edit yourself, not out of shame, but out of survival. And yet, in spite of that, we still find ways to live fully. We laugh, we love, we make space where there wasn’t any. Queer joy here is not loud, but it is steady. It stays with you, even when no one else is looking.
What would you like Filipinos to know about the LGBTQIA+ community where you are?
R: That we are more than who we appear to be in passing. We are not just your entertainers, your best friends, or your silent relatives. We carry full lives, complex, ordinary, joyful, and difficult just like anyone else. Many of us move through the world quietly, choosing peace over confrontation, but that doesn’t mean we are any less brave.
We love deeply. We work hard. We care about our families, even when we are not fully accepted by them. And while we are often asked to shrink ourselves, we continue to show up.
Not just for ourselves, but for each other. I want people to see us not as a category or a trend, but as part of the community, real, present, and deserving of the same respect, dignity, and freedom to live fully.
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